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Written by Salim Lone   
Friday, 06 April 2007

Zola had got me intrigued that morning when I heard him telling Angela on a local radio station that "I am a child soldier with an AK47 in my heart when I am in the West. I don't go there to be nice."Â

He was also excoriating us Kenyans, asking "what kind of nation are you raising if you shut down kids when they are 13," referring to our free education being cut off after primary school. But he was clear about one thing: "I will never run against a Kenyan!"Â

I was not the only one wanting to hear more from him. Well-known personalities from the Nation, Kiss FM, BBC, and Capital also wanted time.Â

South Africa, the land of Nelson Mandela, Archbishop Desmond Tutu and Steve Biko, has produced another wonder. Zola is an instinctive and inveterate advocate for kids, being hardly much older than them. He has just joined up as a Unicef goodwill ambassador so that the two of them can support each others' campaigns for mobilizing political will and resources to protect the hundreds of millions of Africa's most tender citizens.

"I had no idea how many deadly children's illnesses there were, and how many easy remedies, until I met Unicef," he said.Â

They will learn from each other, of course. Zola talks about the need to groom the "boy child," an expression I had never heard since Unicef focuses primarily on the concept of the girl child. "Unless you change boys and men, our girls and women are going to continue to suffer," he says.Â

Zola is horrified that the tiny souls all societies repeatedly proclaim to be their first priority have such trouble meeting even the simplest of their compelling needs, thanks of course to the workings of our economic systems.Â

These allow obscene amounts of wealth to be amassed, corruptly or otherwise, by rapacious elites. Unlike most of the dozens of goodwill ambassadors that Unicef has roped in, Zola wants to take them all on, including our "development partners" whose own economic systems we mimic, except that they have generally managed to make provision for most children.Â

We don't even try. Zola saw this first hand again when he visited Kibera, "the informal settlement" - South Africans find the word ‘slum' demeaning - hardly a mile or so from State House and the sumptuous Lang'ata suburb. "It's beyond description," he moaned quietly after a trip through it with Nameless.

He saw child-headed households, one with nine children in one room.

"Even reality is not supposed to be that harsh. This was not a set for some awful film." He is going to raise money for some Kibera kids' school fees with a local radio station.Â

With his resonant language for both kids and adults, Zola gets everyone interested the minute he opens his mouth. Even as he talks about his own figurative AK 47, Zola says that at home he takes away toy guns from kids. "Tell your mum and dad Zola took it," he tells them.Â

He is furious with the Sudanese Government about the mass killings in Darfur, and wants every democratic African president to send a few thousand soldiers to protect that tortured territory's people.

Zola would not be complete without his professional business partner, Delphine. She runs the record label Ghetto Ruff, but when Zola first approached her, she was not interested. "He looked like a rogue," she says.

But day after day, Zola sat outside her gate, refusing to go away. Eventually, she relented, and heard him, and took him on - and in. Her young artists, mainly penniless, stay at her home, usually six at a time, until they can stand on their own.Â

Seeing Zola and Delphine in action reminds you once again that development does not come in one size and needs all sorts of animators to keep jump-starting it. Every one of us can influence development, with energy, creativity, words or with a shilling or a fortune. In fact, unless all of us own it, it won't happen - at least not the way we want it to.


Salim Lone
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I see
written by Honey , April 06, 2007
I recall back in 2005, on the nation forum when I raised the issue of fighting for the boychild, boy oh boy, was I shut down or what.

It is all over the world, that the boy-child is neglected. All focus is on the girl, matter of fact, the boy is slowly being feminized. Boys can no longer be 'loud and smelly' or they will be stamped ADD, and be legally drugged the rest of their life. Thus, they have painfully learnt to sit pretty, and even consider careers as 'stay-at-home' dads.

Back on track, what this Zola child says is very true. As long as we focus all energy on protecting the girl, and ignore the boy (forgetting that nature has it drawn out, the girl will seek the boy, they must interact at one point) we will only see progress at a snail's pace. Most of us will agree, well bred boys, big and small respect women. That we must instil respect in the male, alongside helping the girl child. Provide the boy what works for him and guide him along. Lastly, Africa needs some sober parenting classes.

Of simple remedies & high children mortalities, I think illiteracy and ignoracy is the big player.
At times I wonder, how best can one convince Kenyanas that they have remedies right at their door steps, that they dont need aride to 'Kisumu District' or 'Coast General' for something that they can do for themselves? That their own people are saying the truth, and we are just trying to help? That it does not have to come from a caucasian to be true? That is does not have to be in a sophisticated pack to treat?

If someone can help me figure that one out, I beleive few more people can be mobilized to save the African Child.
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Turnaround
written by Amina , April 06, 2007
For the longest time, attention has been given to young girls in an attempt to level the playing field. Unfortunately, what has resulted, unlike what Honey says, is the extreme masculinization of men! It has become a world of us vs them. A successful woman is compared to how "much like a man she is."

Honey:
It is all over the world, that the boy-child is neglected. All focus is on the girl, matter of fact, the boy is slowly being feminized. Boys can no longer be 'loud and smelly' or they will be stamped ADD, and be legally drugged the rest of their life. Thus, they have painfully learnt to sit pretty, and even consider careers as 'stay-at-home' dads.
This is an unfortunate statement. Are you suggesting that woman, as we are feminine, should look pretty and stay-at-home?

I advocate for continued education and enlightenment of both boys and girls, especially since their needs are the same. However, it is true that due to cultural, and even religious beliefs, girls and women are more often than not, more disenfranchised than boys and men, so the emphasis on them is not misplaced.
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It is a thin line
written by Honey , April 06, 2007
Ok. Don't skin me yet. Here are my 'lop-sided' views (not good for a majority), although I stand by them. I think we tend to get confused about what we are fighting for. And if men are becoming masculinirized, it should should be a cue that we are using wrong methods. After all, these are our fathers, brothers, significant others: what do you think makes them go on the defense? My guess: they feel threatened, then what?. We must now find a tactful way of making them feel safe, then after that, get them involved in defending the ones they love. Women have been denied basic rights, this basic rights do not include behaving rough and shoddy like men, apologies gentlemen. I hope am not confused yet, myself. I kinda know what am saying in my head.

To 'sit-pretty' I meant; be the missy-goodies, all 'organized' mannerisms, no scattering things, no running around, more like things a girl child is inclined to do.

Girls and boys both deserve to go to school, inherit property, have a say in whom to marry or when, and wether to carry a pregnancy or not, lastly, if a girl must shift her school after getting pregnant, the boy ought to take his share of responsibility. These are basic human rights that most girls are denied around the world.

About needs, let me go rethink what am about to say.
Blame my occasional crutch, xtianity, (there aint anything wrong with it in particular) needs are seriously different. A girl is a very emotional being, a boy is a physical being. This physical being, is very easy to control as opposed to the emotional one. Easy to satisfy, and control.
Why aren't poor countries focussing on this, instead drafting laws that cannot be enforced. In the west, this physical being is forced to tow the line, although he occasionally slides by. In Africa, it will be long before we can do simple things like enforcing child support collections.

Lastly, we women are responsible for the monsters we have in Africa. How many of us here will strike against our brothers when they are wrong? Anyone? Dont we birth them and keep drumming in their heads that they are all that, that they should do this and that, men of the house...yadayada. Remember that their on fathers are out there philandering, leaving us with them, what do we teach them?

Simple solutions to African problems.
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A long way gone
written by Nekessa , April 07, 2007
Salim Lone: Zola reminds me of Ishmael Beah, a former child soldier from Sierra Leonne whose critically acclaimed book, a long way gone is such a poignant story, a real story, about young men whose reality was taken away from them by war. His story is a reminder of how fragile the human mind and psyche is. One minute Beah and his friends were dancing in a little village, the next minute they lose their parents, and soon after they are weapons-- young children who understood least the sanctity of life began taking away lives. Beah's narration is true in many parts of the world, particularly Africa where thousands of boys (sometimes girls) are forced to participate in wars that are not theirs smilies/sad.gif.

Like Zola, Beah is also an advocate for children, he works for Human Rights Watch.
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Important topic
written by Dave Nyambati , April 07, 2007
Honey,

I know it is with well intentions that you say ‘if a girl must shift her school after getting pregnant, the boy ought to take his share of responsibility’ but I’m not sure what you are advocating here. What kind of responsibility would a 14yr old or 15yr old be able to shoulder? If you mean for the boy to also ‘shift’ schools as a punitive measure, then you’re hurting both these children. I would propose legislature that insists on the boy’s parents financially supporting some of the girl’s pre-natal medical needs and the child after it’s born.

I agree with Nekessa that the human mind is very fragile, particularly that of a child. Also like Honey said it is important that we raise our sons and daughters to be the spouses we had always wanted, after all charity starts at home.

On the issue of focus, a blanket approach will not suit all. Take for example the different communities that we have in Kenya. In one community you might find the girl child neglected, here the approach would be focused on the girls. In another community you might find a general neglect of children, here the approach would be for both sexes. One should never have to suffer for the other.
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written by Nekessa , April 07, 2007
Honey I agree with you up to a point. It is true that to make gains on gender equity, both genders have to educated on gender issues. For equity to occur, the same message needs to be conveyed to both. I have had the opportunity to interview two African feminists-- Asha Haji Elmi (Somalia) and Mary Gitagno (Barabaig, Tanzania) whose methods of reaching out to their communities impressed me.

Ms Elmi realized early on in her advocacy work that both men and women had to be educated on the health risks associated with female circumcision. It is futile to empower women if men only see them as adversaries.

Ms Gitagno, who referred to her people as very primitive, does it very simple. She has men and women list their responsibilities, and they found that there are only two things that are not cross-functional. Women give birth and nurse babies. So now, it is not unusual to see men in some of the villages she does her advocacy in cook or do odd jobs around the house instead of sitting around taking snuff and drinking while waiting to be served hand and foot.

Interestingly, both women have reported some success.


Lastly, we women are responsible for the monsters we have in Africa. How many of us here will strike against our brothers when they are wrong? Anyone? Dont we birth them and keep drumming in their heads that they are all that, that they should do this and that, men of the house...yadayada. Remember that their on fathers are out there philandering, leaving us with them, what do we teach them?

Are we really? A society consists, not only people, but the culture that is created by them. It is naive to make the above statement. As more women in Kenya get educated and economically independent, Kenyan men will have to shape up, and we will see the rate of divorces go up. Unlike you, I did not have any women in my life who condoned the behavior you describe above. There are a lot of strong female influences in many Kenyan men's lives, and we need to credit that. The failure in our society, cannot solely be that of women.

About needs, let me go rethink what am about to say.
Blame my occasional crutch, xtianity, (there aint anything wrong with it in particular) needs are seriously different. A girl is a very emotional being, a boy is a physical being. This physical being, is very easy to control as opposed to the emotional one. Easy to satisfy, and control.
I don't really understand your argument on needs. Care to explain what you are on about?
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re: It is a thin line
written by Nekessa , April 07, 2007
Why aren't poor countries focusing on this, instead drafting laws that cannot be enforced. In the west, this physical being is forced to tow the line, although he occasionally slides by. In Africa, it will be long before we can do simple things like enforcing child support collections.

I know this thread is not about child support, but I just thought I would point out something interesting about child support laws in Kenya. According to laws of Kenya :
The issue of custody can only be determined by a court of law upon an application by the person who wants custody over a particular child. Whether or not custody will be granted will depend on the determination of the court, which is done on a case-to-case basis depending mainly on what appears to be in the best interests of the child.

On the issue of support, you can only sue successfully for support if you can demonstrate some degree of parental responsibility on the part of the father over the child. Under the Children's Act (Cap. 8 of 2000), there are four ways through which a man acquires parental responsibility over a child:

1. If he is married to the mother at the time of birth,

2. If he cohabits with the mother for a period of 12 months or more after the birth of the child,

3. If he supports the child for any length of time, or

4. If he makes an agreement with the mother that he will have parental responsibility over the child.

Unless you can establish the existence of any of these circumstances, the court cannot issue an order requiring the father to maintain the child.

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written by aeichener , April 07, 2007
A good article, and one of the best, most inspired discussions that I have at all read so far on KenyaImagine. Many thanks to all the contributors so far!

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written by Masaa , April 07, 2007
I must agree with the comments honey has made.If I speak for myself and my own experiences, I grew up always being bashed by women for any manly/boyish behaviour that I potrayed and mind you it was by no means negative.
I then grew up to be very defensive of men in general since I always had the impression that it was me vs. them.This then meant, that in most cases where I would have otherwise been strong for a woman or any girl, I just decided not to take any action and say everyone for himself and God for us all.
I am sure that had I grown up with the feeling that it is not all about the girl but about every kid male or female, I would have definitely acted otherwise.
I believe the society must not decide it is all about the girl child and neglect the boys...do this at your own peril.
I actually now unconciously support the boy child in most cases and I realise it is mostly out of instinct.Rationale has been slowly creeping in me but the effect is there already.
Never make the men feel threatened.It only closes avenues for dialogue and common sense.
Honey, you really explained all that was in my mind and heart spot on!
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No sweat
written by Honey , April 07, 2007
So far in my life, I have interacted more with men than women. On more than one occasion, I have been the only female in a work station or group. Beyond their first macho thoughts, men are the simplest beings anyone can work with. However, in the motherland, they seem very unresponsive, what are we doing wrong?. That is what I want feminists in the forum to tell me.

No Nekesa, to make really gains in Africa, two possible methods that can work:

1. Laws that protect the girl must be enforced. Tough call, there are several issues sorrounding this enforcement capability. Some form of help (for the agrieved) must be put in place before this is attempted. Once the r-ship is poisoned, in a country where women are economic pariahs, some avenues of help must be available. pariahs,littl .
2. Engage the man, by tearing down his fears. What makes him feel threatenedd! In this day and time, he must know better.

And No Nekesa, I was raised around tough women, both intellectually and economically. Guess what, they had one great brother, against his parents wishes, putting his own goals on hold, to ensure his 5 sisters went to achieve their best, and they did not let him down. Actually, to be honest, in my extended family women are stronger than men: Intellectually, economically, and characterwise. It is a thing we laugh about all the time.

Anywho, dont kid me.

Yeah, very few women, again very few women subscribe to what you talked about. By nature, a woman is very crafty, educated or not, wealthy or not. In acountry where they feel threatened, and must fight for recognition, education is put on the roadside as they indulge in dirty games. I dont know how open minded they are, but all I have met are full of crap, yet they are all college graduates, if that meets your definition of educated. Economic empowerment, we still got some ways to go.

Lastly, there is ideality, then there is reality. The things most spoken by our good ladies in this high places are ideality. Thats why I dont take stock in them. For they are discussed in highrises, in big hotels, and conferences, and there they remain.

Asanta
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written by Honey , April 07, 2007
Nyambati

Yes, a 14 year old boy cannot shoulder the responsibility, then what of the 14 year old girl who must carry the child.
That is when alternative schooling shoots in. The boy must attend the birthing classes with the gal, as opposed to going on with studies as the gal halts. He must be held responsible too. They both must attend parenting, both must sign papers....bla bla! ok.
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young mothers
written by Nekessa , April 07, 2007
You are right Honey, both teenage parents must take responsibility. Unfortunately, the law is not on the side of the women. From my quote four comments above, note that if a man can prove that he had no intention of having a child with a woman, he is under no obligation to contribute to that child's upbringing. Now, this explains the rise of dead beat dads, and absence of positive role models for young boys.
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Great, powers that maybe.
written by a guest , April 08, 2007
Good improvenment.
The blackened quoting was a real sore, lakini sasa, the lightened quoting is too similar to the article. Any other color choices, or maybe stick to the natural black, alittle heavy and italic.
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Second reason for dismal perfo
written by Honey , April 08, 2007
I have known of this skewed provisions (provided here by Nekesa, I recall 'Cradle' trying to fight for one such child) that protect Kenyan men for a while, and every attempt to change them leads to aggressive opposition from men. Children suffer. How did we end up with such collous men.

Here is my second reason.
Kenya probably has the highest number of NGO's or Organizations supposedly fighting for children and women. One time during MOI's rule, they were slightly over 400. 400 NGO's, almost nothing to write home about? Problem? Yes.

The problem has been the employees. These organizations are mostly viewed as money minters for the connected. How many of us dreamt of working for the UN? prestige, and the dollars to boot. With these distorted views, and accountability left to the dogs, corruption sets in.

Connected people have sent in their below average perfoming kin, averages of averages daughters & sons, harshly put: stupid, non-creative, and people seriously deficient in imagination are the ones who run the places. In proper countries, they are to be on factory lines pushing goods over, and packing. The kids are not to blame, but a long leadership of MOI that disregarded intellect, discouraged reasoning, and had no respect for its people. Fools in large numbers and in high places are no joke!

I also beleive it will take Kenya a while to run these 'fools' out of this places, after all, their ill-gotten powers still protect them. For, a while, tutavumilia kuwa wakenya.

Take an example of Winnie Kibaki, eeh, am sure this girl will be running some org prety soon once her father leaves office. The rest of us, then must sit and painfully listen to these small brains passing for 'think-tanks'.

Nyambati,
Ana thing, monetary aid is not all a 14-year old needs to raise a child. The sleepless nights she must stay up with a colic child. If u want your legislature balanaced, the parents of the boy then must be willing to share the baby-sitting too, since their boy must stay away. But the down side of all this, the boy fails to learn taking care of responsibility. Play and pay, period. But again, when does the child get to bond with the father. One can not plant kids around and think he can pay off their mothers, NOOOOH!. i PERSONALLY THINK PARENTS OUGHT TO LEAVE IT TO THE 14 YR OLDS. If they must get jobs, so be it!
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