I was
sitting at the coach station, waiting on a trip up-state last week when I was
accosted by the most ghastly sight. A well-dressed middle aged lady whacked
her five-six year old son clean across the mouth.
If that
left me open-mouthed in shock, what really dropped my jaw was the reaction of
the thirty or so people around me. No one raised the slightest protest or even
gave too much of a look, the idea being that this was private business, the
realm of the parent, and mummy knew best.
The world
has moved on quite a bit from the days when it was permissible, even
commendable to chastise one's wife and ‘put her in place'. We have also
stopped, at least in public, poking fun at the learning disabled or pulling
dangerous pranks on them. Indeed, it is now the practice when struggling to make a case for the
invasion of exotic Middle Eastern lands, the plight of women and children is
often used, especially to paint the regimes and societies we are promising to
emancipate them from, as barbaric and unapologetically backward.
In part
these changes were brought about by a humanist determination that society's most vulnerable are not subjected to harm while we stand idly by, that we instead are burdened with a duty to protect them. For
these same reasons we decided to ignore such religious writings and teachings
as would encourage or permit such action, and sought instead to focus on those
elements of scripture that urged us to care for one another, affording special
attention to the lowly and the weak. No longer can a wife-beater seek succour in
religious texts that pronounce him head of his wife and her master. Our
rendering of such verses in the modern context, place instead a burden on the Christian husband
to provide her relief and love every day of her life.
So it is
odd, that the world's largest retailer of books, Amazon and one of the strongest
religious movements in the Western Hemisphere, American Evangelicals of a conservative bent, should support the distribution
and sale of a book that not only teaches but also preaches the physical
disciplining of children. Euphemistically termed spanking, but nonetheless
properly named beating, caning and thrashing as the case may be. This book
deceptively enounced Shepherding a Child's Heart is a true instruction
manual for the child beater, and the fact that the name child-beater does not
quite bring out the revulsion that wife-beater does is emblematic of the power
of such arguments as it proposes.
Why do we still tolerate a situation where the smallest, most
vulnerable and dependent in society are the only ones without
protection from assault under the law?
The apple
they say, does not fall far from the tree, and so it is that just like was the
case with the subjugation of womankind, Divine Wisdom is pronounced to justify
violence on the weak, the weapon of choice being "He that spares
his rod hates his son: but he that loves him chastises him sometimes"
(Proverbs 13:24). Such is the self-righteousness behind some of the defenders of this practice that they even insist that all good Christians must beat their children to set them straight in the path of the true faith.
Kenyan
children still suffer similar treatment, similarly justified. That such
abuse of children, in Kenya and around the world often survives
legislation as is clear from these reports here from Human Rights
Watch, is proof that concerted political leadership is needed to fight
this cruelty just as was the case in the emancipation of women.
Many
reading this will no doubt contend that there is a difference between
spanking and beating, and that they perhaps have enjoyed the benefits
of such physical counsel in the past. There was a time when sections
of the female society also held such beliefs, and we did not listen,
with good reason. Assault is illegal, it matters not who the violent
action comes from.
We have grown as a society to accept that
violent action against our weaker members is barbaric, now we must work
to protect the very weakest of all. Those invoking God's name in their ill-treatment of children would do well to heed another admonition of the Christ's for those doing harm to children, "It would be better for them if a millstone was hanged about their neck, and that they were drowned in the depth of the sea."
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Looking at this question 'casually' on the outside, I am inclined to think that sometimes measured forms of violence become necessary as a deterrent against wrong doing by humanbeings, even as a whole and not just as a child. If that be the case, how do we then make sure that only the appropriate and deserving detterants are metted out against the offendors without being unnecessarily abusive? And if such measures cannot practically be controlled or standardised, then what alternatives should we put in place, that we as a society are not completely facing a potential and probable loss?